I’ll tell you why there are so many abandoned dogs.

It is not easy to own a dog, And no one makes it easy for you.

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I have two german shepherds of my own. I had a great love for dogs and after causing some hell, two beautiful and intelligent beings entered my life and changed it completely. Everyone feels love for cute and cuddly dogs. Even looking at a pup and wanting it more than ever feels great.

I will tell you what happens after you bring the pup home. They pee and poop anytime. They need to be fed atleast 4 times in the day. At night you have to be careful where they are and step accordingly in the dark. And you will have to become a morning person overnight. A puppy is not just something to show off or cuddle whenever you want. It is a lot more responsibility. And I am not saying that new pet owners do not know this. It obviously takes time for a pet owner to understand all this and change their life accordingly. Just like when a baby comes home.

The pup he or she has its own behavioral characteristics. Over the period of a year, they will make it clear what they want and don’t want as well. The puppy is not just going to stay cute and cuddly. It will be demanding, it will take time to accept you and find a place in your life.

I will tell you the difference in having a human baby and a puppy. Ofcourse it is a huge difference. The baby is welcomed in the human world but one and by all. It is given love, respect and lots of attention by one and everyone alike. When you will have a puppy, the humans around you will break up into two segments. One who adore you for this and one who just hate having dogs around. That means your relationship dynamics change overnight. You are totally responsible for the pup’s life and most of the time the near family also resists the puppy coming into their homes. So with this pressure a pet owner starts on the difficult and all confusing journey of giving the puppy everything it needs while still living in society taking care of individual preferences of people towards THIS choice of your life.

You will live in near panic almost all the time you take your puppy out. You will hold onto dear life as your puppy spots a cat or other dogs and bark because they want to meet them. You will have your heart in your mouth when they bark at home or outside. You will fear it will drive other people away. You will always see the most disgusted looks on other society members while your puppy makes it from the elevator to your home and outside for a walk.

Somehow, in Indian cities, and now the so called maintained townships, people equate a puppy or a dog with dirt everywhere. So you will always hate it when your puppy innocently pees or poops in front of other people. People expect the puppy to be a responsible citizen of this country from the moment you decided to bring it home.

Children will play with the puppy and their parents will warn you for impending dirt and gems from your puppy that might affect their children. Elders will find you crazy and misfit in marriage because you got a puppy. Practically no one who lives in your building will love you after that point. And every challenge of making the puppy grow up will be a double edged sword for you that will sink in your system.

Your maid will not last long because there are always too many hair to clean and she only signed up for zooming the broom in one stroke across 5 rooms.

If you live in a huge township, there will be letters from society management that your dog was found running in grass and there are broken plants that could be because of your dog. Most incidents that happen in your society will find a way to be blamed on you and your dog. If you live in Pune, where I stay, the housekeeping people will come at your door and yell at you for every patch of water collected in the lobby. They will also not clean the society gardens of any poop, I mean it could be from the cats or strays but it Becomes your responsibility CAUSE YOU OWN A PET.

Your puppy will then want your attention and want you to play with it, be proud of it and you will be sick tired from all this new found negative attention and hostile abandoning from the human race. You will then yell at your puppy or beat it wanting it to behave more like a human and you will find yourself sinking because no one is going to help you survive this. You will regret that you brought the puppy and now you cannot give it a life you thought you would. Your puppy will demand to run freely and play with it in a garden area. And the human race will cuss you for it. Finally you will get tired facing everyone inside your family and outside and decide to give it away before you beat it more and see it sad.

Doesn’t sound like a good story isn’t it? There are many who become bold from all this isolation and live their life with their pets the way they want and ignore all the naysayers and problem creators and you know what HATS OFF to them.

It takes 2 years to live with a puppy and learn what it is like to be a pet owner. Its like you are heading a revolution that is going to be for the better of the world but in your own time, you have to pay heavily for your peace.

It is not easy. To add to all this there are finances required to manage a puppy and of course the growing organizations that will punish you or take your pet away if they feel you are being cruel to it or its being abused. There are also pet services but which cost a bomb. Not to forget your TIME And your source of income all which have to be managed alongside.

In India, animals have no respect and those who are with animals are also treated the same. We need compassion and understanding for all types of people. Everyone makes their choices for their own peace and love. Some get married, some do not, some have children, some do not, some have one dog and some choose to have 2, like me. When our way is not appreciated and we are pressured to give it up, will we remain peaceful and loving beings?

The fact that someone abandoned their dog does not tell you their full story. He probably saved his dog from being abused and hurt from his own anger and he gave away the dog because the guilt and failure of not living up to the dog’s life is killing him everyday. It would never be easy to look into the puppy’s eyes because they will make you fall in love and destroy you for having done this to them.

It is true that training your pets and training your self to be accepting and kind towards everyone and focus on what works for you is an Emotional Intelligence trait that will help us all. Because all the challenges listed and many more; they are not going to stop. Somewhere you will realize your pet made you resilient in this showbiz of human society and what you got in return was a true friend for life.

Again, Hats Off to all pet owners.

 

A vlog on the Mumbai Traffic

​​Mumbai.. concrete jungle where dreams are made of, there is nothing you can do. This is true for the Mumbai traffic as well. There is nothing you can do. 

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Vlogging in Mumbai traffic because I can.

Travelling with a spontaneous, sarcastic friend is always a treat, ain’t it? 

Have fun and leave comments. 

Ciao

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I am .. what they say .. ‘Awkward’


My first impression is hardly ever a good one. Even if I am liked, it’s because someone saw me eating food. There is rarely a first time I am open and smiling to people meeting me for the first time. The rare occasions where I have felt love and harmony for strangers is when I was under a little influence of some friendly herbs. See again .. near to food.
I had a complexity of this unlikeable, what do I say and be acceptable syndrome for a long time. I had also experienced anxiety in confrontations about being right in situations.

I am a very controversial person. Lest I knew that. But it is difficult to accept it and just stand alone. So knowing this fact, I try not be a part of any controversy.

I didn’t want the spotlight. I was comfortable not being judged… I mean who doesn’t. I wanted ease of acceptability and not just acceptability.

This fear to stand out made me into a hidden figure. I loved to stay away from hustle bustle,too many people, groups of them looking at you as if you have to contribute rightly to the discussion. It feels like pressure. Is everyone under such pressure to be nice?

I am also bad at apology especially when it comes to my pets, comments about who I am and which mould I fit in, relatives bashing and workplace politics. Totally suck. And when I have been someone who adjusts a lot to convenience others, god I just don’t like that person. I hate what I become.

It’s not natural and I am a bitch sometimes. I can’t help it. I know very well how to make them come to terms and even understand my state and sympathise with me after sufficient time has passed by and everything has cooled down, but never at that instant. Unless I am closing a deal or negotiating with a vendor. People do know the difference between work and outside of work humanity. Everything is fair in business. That is the right quote.

Having said that, I feel a deep concern for humanity, across the world suffering, violence, lack of trust in people, animals and nature. So this is grand. And it is a part of my everyday thought. It worries me. And I have this deep felt need to contribute to make this world a better place. I try. I really do. It also feels good doing random acts of kindness. I am not a selfish person you see. I just communicate when I know I will be effective. I am generally not effective in petty issues and drama oriented confrontations. They are just not for me.

With all those who have been with me for years, a part of the conversation has been ‘ at first, I thought you were too snobbish a person. Little did we know you hardly stop talking and have bursts of laughing gas moments.’ Little has anyone known the paralysing anxiety of whether I will be okay them knowing how crazy I am.

What to do… my first impression is always wrong.

What is even

via Daily Prompt: Uneven

A prompt is a one letter word for today called uneven. I am still trying to access my mental areas for coming up with something that can be an abstract or philosophical reference to uneven that I can elaborate on. Its not easy. Not for now. So I start with the antonym for uneven which is even. And I am faced with the question what is even? Even numbers. Even this is not easy. 🙂

Even refers to the Panchgani flatlands in Maharashtra.

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Panchgani

Famous for horse rides atop a flatland of a mountain. So basically I derive my answer here.

If the flatlands are worth mentioning then that leaves most areas on earth as ‘uneven’. So uneven is the nature of nature. Uneven is also a bilateral symmetry. This I believe personally. That every beautiful symmetry I have witnessed was so, because something was being uneven in it. Uneven is also my breath. Our lives, our beds, our feelings.

The heart beat monitor is an example of uneven breaths and the line with its ups and downs that signifies life.

I like things uneven. I have no desire to even anything. My smile is uneven; just as the most beautiful smiles in the world.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Daily Prompt: Festive

via Daily Prompt: Festive

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Festive is my mood, my spirit. Festive is the universe. I loved how I have begun to trust it more and more everyday with my life and choices and I just choose my joy. So everyday I challenge any preconceived notions I may have which invariably just add to self doubt and stop the self dead in tracks; and just witnessed how easy it becomes for the Universe to manifest your desires because they come straight and unadulterated.

The magic of this year is unveiling now. This year was beautiful. It all fits now. It was a year of letting go. Stay true. It will always be worth it.

Merry Christmas!

Cheers to New Beginnings